Last fall I blogged about the changes in weather. Well, here we are and it's spring in Michigan. It was 70 earlier this week. Today it's 20. Welcome to Michigan! They say if you don't like the weather here, wait a minute, it will change. That is so true. But for a child with autism this can be extremely frustrating.
Tuesday on the 70 degree day the kids happened to have a half day. Daniel had worn a short sleeve shirt and pants to school. I try to keep him in pants (as opposed to shorts, not naked!) for as long as possible because once he switches he doesn't want to go back. That day we were walking over to a neighbors and he was really annoyed. He had on his crocs (the other item of clothing he LOVES but I won't allow him to wear unless it's warm out) but he still had on pants. He was complaining the whole walk about the pants feeling "funny" on the crocs. Because, of course, USUALLY he has shorts on with the crocs. Good grief. The crocs were quite a coupe for me. It happened in Florida and I was having a stroke at him constantly having to put on his tennis shoes and socks upon leaving the beach. . . every time. Have you ever tried to put socks on leaving the beach? Of course you haven't, it's nearly impossible! I snapped, (which is usually how something finally changes) and went and bought him shoes similar to these. He had fought this change many many times, but I think even he could see how difficult it was to be putting on tennis shoes and made the leap. It was a great thing, but also a transition we have to make with weather changes.
By the time we got home from our walk he was really mad. My patience was not at it's usual level. I was experiencing unprecedented PMS and was seriously about to snap. When my husband asked how I knew it was PMS, my answer was simple. Because I feel like I want to f''ing kill someone! He laughed (nervously? :) and was all, oh ok I get it. It was such a gorgeous day and it was rather frustrating that we were spending the afternoon (that they had off of school) arguing about the clothes situation. I know how hard it is for him so I was (really) trying to be patient with him, but oh some days it's so hard! Complain complain about my pants. I say, "then GO PUT ON SHORTS!" "NOOOOOOOOOO not shorts". I swear! I tried, oh how I tried to calmly lay it out. I told him he could either 1. go put on shorts, or he could 2. continue in his pants with his crocs or 3. wear pants with his tennis shoes. There was crying and agonizing and I just went outside to watch Zachary (in his shorts and short sleeve shirt that he changed into) demonstrate his "obstacle course" that he laid out in the back yard.
While we were doing this Daniel disappeared. He came downstairs and outside IN HIS SHORTS. Thank God! I am so thankful to have Zachary, besides for the obvious fact that I love, adore, cherish, and admire him as his own person. He is a wonderful model for Daniel. Sometimes when Daniel is so stuck in something he'll look at Zachary and realize he's doing it, maybe it's not so bad. It is so helpful for him, ok for me too.
Today it is snowing again. Daniel wants to know why? I understand Daniel, because I'm so done with this weather too. We are back to pants and "heavy coats". It wasn't as hard as usual to go back but the disappointment is there for all of us. It gets better every year, but every year I'm always asking myself why we live here?